I’ve been extremely lazy about posting lately – I’m going to chalk it up to a certain feeling that always creeps up on me this time of year, the overwhelming ending of projects and classes coupled with a homesickness that lulls me into this weird zombie state every holiday season. Wanting to be home and at the same time feeling guilty about not enjoying every second of the newly beginning summer here.
Even though things are good (and I swear, they are!) this time of year I always feel a deep need to be surrounded by people and places I’ve known forever – the unchanging main street of my home town, my friends’ laughs, the pizza from the corner (ah what I would do for a plain slice right now…).
I’ve decided that instead of being all whiny about it, I’d post some inspirational photos, quotes and the like that are helping out my mood today. Hope you enjoy!
You learn quickly, as a transplant, what you must do to adapt. You can spend your time thinking about what you must make do with “now” compared to what you had “there”. (As a transplant, then and there become one and the same thing. The past is a geography lesson.)
You don’t know anyone at the party, so you don’t want to go. You don’t like cottage cheese, so you haven’t eaten it in years. This is your choice, of course, but don’t kid yourself: it’s also the flinch.
Your personality is not set in stone. You may think a morning coffee is the most enjoyable thing in the world, but it’s really just a habit. Thirty days without it, and you would be fine. You think you have a soul mate, but in fact you could have had any number of spouses. You would have evolved differently, but been just as happy.
You can change what you want about yourself at any time. You see yourself as someone who can’t write or play an instrument, who gives in to temptation or makes bad decisions, but that’s really not you. It’s not ingrained. It’s not your personality. Your personality is something else, something deeper than just preferences, and these details on the surface, you can change anytime you like.
If it is useful to do so, you must abandon your identity and start again. Sometimes, it’s the only way.
Set fire to your old self. It’s not needed here. It’s too busy shopping, gossiping about others, and watching days go by and asking why you haven’t gotten as far as you’d like. This old self will die and be forgotten by all but family, and replaced by someone who makes a difference.
Your new self is not like that. Your new self is the Great Chicago Fire—overwhelming, overpowering, and destroying everything that isn’t necessary.
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.